Temidayo Peter's Blogging and Ethics of Marriage/Courtship

Engagement is a day set aside for the payment of bride price by the husband to be, to his prospective in-law. It is often referred to as the traditional marriage. It usually takes place before the 'white garment marriage proper. It can come up a week, a day or some hours before the wedding. It is a day for the two families to meet formally and it is usually accompanied with ceremony, which for a child of God must be moderate and follow Biblical principles (Gen 24:42-65). Preparation for Engagement and the eventual Marriage will be discussed under 3 sub-topics: 1. Physical/Emotional Preparation: Before engagement or marriage can take place, both the man and woman must be of marriageable age and must be matured, because marriage is not meant for kids. The man must have a stable source of income and must be able to take good care of a family. The woman must also be engaged in something worthwhile to lean on to support the husband, by the time they are married. The man must

Valentine! Valentine!! Valentine!!! What is Valentine's day? Valentine's day Is a day when people show their affection for another person or people by sending cards, flowers or chocolates with messages of love. Hope you saw that definition?👆🏽 But in this part of the world, it's given a wrong and different definition. Some think it's a day to commit a lot of atrocities like having Sex, clubbing, drinking to stupor, spending lavishly on things that are not reasonable, what a world! Some girls think it's a day to lose their virginity, hmmm! Some girls are even thinking on how they can divide themselves in order to satisfy different guys (and that one is someone's future wife o, what a shame), so their "honey pot" has turn to a general thing😪. And some guys think it's a day to break virginity, have sex with different girls, have you forgotten that having sex with someone you ain't married to is called FORNICATION you are actually destro

When you propose to a lady it means you are ready to settle down as a man, and proposing to her means you have searched your heart properly, and that's the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. These days we see videos on social media of a guy proposing to a lady and then the reaction is something else, some girls walk away or even slap the man without saying a YES (what a disgrace☹️). When you search it deeply, you will find out the guy has never been a good guy to her, probably the guy has been cheating on her or he hasn't been of good conduct, and you expect her to say yes (who does that). You never take time to talk with her about how the future will look like for both of you, she hasn't seen in you a man that will be a good father to her children or a good husband to her, all you do is have sex with her, shopping and so on. Most ladies wants to settle down, not all ladies though (95%), some want to keep enjoying life because they feel like "m

Marriage is believed to be instituted for the following reasons: companionship, guard against lust, and for procreation. The devil is fighting vigorously to destroy home because it is the bedrock of the church and society. Divorce rate is on the increase and many innocent have fallen victims. This is because many homes started on faulty foundations. Jesus Christ is the foundation of the Church, just as marriage is the foundation of the home. The Bible is the foundation for spiritual growth, while the constitution remains the foundation of the government. The Psalmist says  "if the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do?" (Ps 11:3).  The family that is founded on Christ, it's foundation can never collapse. To achieve this, let the husband to be and the wife to be, start their home with fasting and prayers, and keep on building their home of family on the altar of prayer. The family that prays together stays together! So they say, and that is the absolute

Marriage as an institution has divine approval. The family, which is the basic unit of the society, is equally in God's scheme of things, especially with His decision to create mankind - male and female. The coming together of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden as husband and wife was not accidental. They were specifically instructed to be fruitful and multiply, till the earth, subdue the earth and have dominion. Before these instructions can be obeyed by 'man', marriage must have taken place. LIKELY FASTING AND PRAYERS FOCUS BEFORE MARRIAGE: 1. Divine Leading (Romans 8:14; Pro. 18:22) You have a right to claim guidance,because He has promised to guide you. You have a right to claim that He will lead you. But just to pick out someone and say, "I'm going to believe God and she's/he's going to be my wife or husband", is unscriptural; neither is it the right way of exercising faith. You can seek wise counsel from someone you respect spiritually,

1. Seeking God's face: " Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receeiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened." Matt 7:7-8. How do I seek?  You need to get busy in the house of God, be in love and fellowship. Read 👉🏾 Psalms 37:4, John 9:9. Set a model and unbiased standard, have a specific desire but avoid being exclusive, let God have His way. Prov 19:21 . Attend Christian fellowship meetings and retreat programmes.  2. Look, Wait, Listening   Look : Look in the right places, set your eyes right!  Wait : Do not jump into conclusion like Samuel did; instead, go back to your closet to pray specific prayers (pray and fast) do not just rush into decision.  Listening : How to receive God's choice. Modes of hearing from God can be explored. Allow God to speak to you.  Inner voice or still small voice  Audible voice 1Sam 3.

Love : The first thing that should reflect is the agape love, I.e the love of God " Submitting yourselves to one another in the fear of God." (Eph. 5:21; Romans 12:9,10). Compatibility: One of the questions that do arise within the youth ministry is how compatible am I to her, or how compatible is she to me?. The issue of compatibility is measured across varying axis of life, e.g. Character/Attitude, Temperament, Background, Education, Finance, e.t.c. The intending partners must know that both parties must agree and be agreeable "Can two walk together, except they be agree?" (Amos 3:3), the issue of compatibility is a great factor to consider in your choice of life partner; even when you are convinced that God is leading you. And when you don't feel so compatible with the fellow you are sure God is leading you to, or leading to you, ensure you don't take a step further into such union until you have prayed through, and your doubts are cleared.  Let

Marriage is a life covenant between a man and a woman, in which, if not properly guided from foundation, it could either make or Mar the destiny of the couple entering into the race, thereby making it an enduring, rather than an enjoyable one. Marriage is purposed by God to bring fulfillment for mankind on earth. Choice is a basic foundation of life; every marriage is first built on choice (Matt. 7:24-29). A good choice of marriage can only be found in the Lord, while a wrong choice is found within the worldly environment (I.e. choice by flesh and lustful desire).  Wrong choice in marriage is likely to be a sandy foundation; while the right choice is tantamount to building on a solid foundation. It is only a choice of marriage built on solid foundation that lasts long.  Intending couple needs to know that choice in marriage should not be made in a hurry, it should not be carried out for selfish or carnal reason. Each person needs to follow his/her heart (Gen 24:12-32). REQUI

There are so many youths whose lives have been made miserable and bitter through broken relationships. In 2013, a Christian sister complained of how her fiance dumped her after years of courtship. During the courtship, they have done the introduction and preparation was on top gear for the wedding. The brother in question had started buying engagement items. Then, one day he told the sister that he was no longer interested because his elder sister would not like to have the fiancee as her sister in-law. The matter was taken to the pastor, but at the end, the relationship crashed. To add salt to the injury, the brother asked the sister to return everything he bought for her.  For peace to reign, the pastor of the sister told her to return what the brother had bought. Another sister cuts her relationship with her fiance after a long time of courtship, citing undesirable characters of the brother for the step she took.  These are two cases out of other numerous 'betrayals&#