Proposing To A Lady

When you propose to a lady it means you are ready to settle down as a man, and proposing to her means you have searched your heart properly, and that's the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. These days we see videos on social media of a guy proposing to a lady and then the reaction is something else, some girls walk away or even slap the man without saying a YES (what a disgrace☹️).

When you search it deeply, you will find out the guy has never been a good guy to her, probably the guy has been cheating on her or he hasn't been of good conduct, and you expect her to say yes (who does that).

You never take time to talk with her about how the future will look like for both of you, she hasn't seen in you a man that will be a good father to her children or a good husband to her, all you do is have sex with her, shopping and so on. Most ladies wants to settle down, not all ladies though (95%), some want to keep enjoying life because they feel like "marriage is a bondage". 

So as a guy you need to be sure of the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, before you propose to her. It's not about merriment and then the next thing you propose, it doesn't work that way, you guys should have talked about some things, like talking about the future, telling her the plans you have for the family, telling her she's the one you wish to spend the rest of your life with, deep in her heart she will be rest assured that you guys will become husband and wife someday. So when the guy propose, it won't come as a shock to her "shock" as in "but we haven't said anything about this", because you guys have been doing "chop and clean mouth". Marriage does not have expiring date it's for a life time, so don't just date a girl because of your selfish desire and then the next thing you propose and disgrace yourself in public. 

And as a lady, don't date a guy because of what you want from him (money). And then he propose to you, and you feel like he's not your type to settle down with. Don't start what you can't finish, you have been collecting his money and extorting from him and then you turn down his proposal, aunty it doesn't work that way. If you know you won't marry him don't collect his money, it's wrong, ask him where the relationship is heading to. Don't just act like "as long as he spends on me, I gat no issue" it will later bounce back at you, trust me. 

And you don't necessarily need to turn him down in public (that's a national disgrace), even when you are not sure if he's the one, since it's in public just apply wisdom, at least saying YES that moment won't cost you your life. In order for him not to be disgraced, you can say "YES" in public and say "NO" in private. 

As a guy when you propose to a Lady, it means you are ready in all ways, financially, maturity, handling a family and so on. You don't need to turn her to "Lord of the rings" by delaying in doing your rights, at least 3months from the day you propose you should do the necessary things. 

Ladies and gentlemen out there, apply wisdom when it comes to this aspect of life, I wish you all a blissful marital life. Remain blessed! 

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