Your Choice - Are you Fully Persuaded?

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Marriage is a life covenant between a man and a woman, in which, if not properly guided from foundation, it could either make or Mar the destiny of the couple entering into the race, thereby making it an enduring, rather than an enjoyable one. Marriage is purposed by God to bring fulfillment for mankind on earth. Choice is a basic foundation of life; every marriage is first built on choice (Matt. 7:24-29). A good choice of marriage can only be found in the Lord, while a wrong choice is found within the worldly environment (I.e. choice by flesh and lustful desire). 
Wrong choice in marriage is likely to be a sandy foundation; while the right choice is tantamount to building on a solid foundation. It is only a choice of marriage built on solid foundation that lasts long. 
Intending couple needs to know that choice in marriage should not be made in a hurry, it should not be carried out for selfish or carnal reason. Each person needs to follow his/her heart (Gen 24:12-32).
REQUIREMENTS TO KNOWING GOD'S CHOICE IN MARRIAGE
There are basic requirements to knowing God's choice in marriage. First of all, we need to establish that choice of marriage is not for (immature) boys and girls, but for the grown up fellows - man and woman. Here are some of the basic requirements.

  • Physical Maturity: As earlier explained, the Brother and Sister must have grown up and be physically mature. Marriage is not meant for boys and girls, but for the mature ones. 
  • Spiritual Maturity: You cannot have a good choice except you know the Lord. He is the one that would lead and direct you appropriately. Many who chose outside God regretted their decisions. What many do not know is that, marriage is a relationship for life and it is only the Alpha and Omega, God Almighty, who reserves the assurance of right direction. Therefore, you must be born again and spirit filled for the Holy Spirit to direct you.
The following two steps are very important to making a choice 
  1. Holiness or purity, and Being spirit filled "follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord" Heb - 12:14.
  2. Active service in the Lord's Vineyard. 
  • Emotional Maturity: You must be emotionally balance and independent, you must have grown to a stage of life that you are able to take decisions on your own, being able to guide and comfort your spouse. 
  • Readiness and Preparedness: This involves the ability to provide for yourself and home in terms of meeting material needs. Readiness could be explained in three folds: 
  1. Financial Readiness: This means meeting the need of yourself and that of your intending home, financially. You must plan for this. 
  2. Material Readiness: There are some material provisions that you must put in place as an intending couple: for instance, provision of accommodation and it's necessities. 
  3. Social Readiness: Learning the role of a father and a mother, knowing responsibilities towards in-laws and ability to tolerate. 
  • God's Leading: Go to God in prayer to choose for you, don't choose in haste or through your own selfish will (Prov. 16:25),
"To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven" Eccl 3:1
"And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, this is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left." Isa 30:21.

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