Laying the Foundation For A Blissful Marital Life

As soon as the courtship begins, both parties need to embark on sincere talk, Bible-study and prayer. So, when you meet together, as fiance and fiancee, your discussion should focus mainly on prayer, Bible study and talks that would strengthen the would be marriage. With this, you are laying a good foundation for your future home. The brother could prepare a brief bible study in advance while the sister could be asked to work on the prayer points. This prayer can cover areas such as the challenges ahead of you, the events in the family, Church and nation. Any problem facing each of the partners could be tackled in prayer this way. Courtship is a time of business, and when it is approached as such, Satan will not infiltrate the relationship. The beauty of courtship would be realized. If courtship is approached this way; following things can be achieved:

• Worthwhile Acquaintanceship: As the Church is in courtship with Jesus, we get acquainted with the master everyday. In your courtship, both of you will get to know each other better. This is good, because both of you are brought up and groomed by different parents from different background. 

• Solidified Relationship: This is a gradual process that can eventually translate to a mutual agreement, the friendship will become solidified. Always remember that, "a family that prays together, stays together".

• Adjustment on Weakness: Nobody is born an Angel. Each person has his or her own weak points. During courtship, these weakness are exposed in a little way so that each can make the necessary adjustments. So, during courtship you should prepare to make adjustments that will promote love and unity. As you give room to being real and sincere to each other, subconsciously, your weakness will manifest; this is not the time to call it quit, it is when to give constructive criticism that could help in bringing the best out of each other. Always know that, you are in that courtship to make each other better than you were before you started. Everyone has something to stop or start doing to make the union work. 

It is not every weakness that can be corrected within the limited period of courtship most especially, weakness that bother on character, which have been built over decades. Some may require a long time to adjust finely, while some can be easily corrected out of sacrificial love. 

Albeit, if the risk of peaceful home is too high should such weakness linger, I advise that you both agree to see a mentor, counsellor or your pastor on it. Some advices sink and stick better when they are heard from a neutral person who has nothing to lose or gain from your union. 

• Encouragement for Strength/strong Areas: As we have weakness we also have strenght/strong areas. When these are known, they can be explored for the mutual benefits or both sides. This is the reason Bible study and prayer should form the bulk of your dis discussions. Then read books, so that you can both learn how to channel these strenghts or strong areas properly to the advantage of your union. 

• Awareness of Spiritual Maturity: The level of spiritual maturity of individuals differs from one person to the other. It is a wonderful thing to know the spiritual status of the person you want to marry. The knowledge of the spiritual status will help you to structure the relationship toward spiritual maturity. Let the strongest of you in that union undertake divine responsibility for the growth of the weaker one. It is dangerous to pride in your spiritual advantage of strenght over your would-be partner - if such weakness is left unattended to, the weakness may in turn erode your strength. 

• Provides Further Proofs: During courtship, you have further proofs of the genuiness of the relationship, and this brings peace of mind. Doubts are cleared in the process. It is a potential treath capable of causing separation, to be in a union full of silent doubts or questionable convictions. 

These six things are what the church normally experience in the process of courtship with Jesus Christ. Every healthy courtship experiences misunderstanding, no doubt. This is jormal, because both of you are human beings. If misunderstanding occurs, the offended person should display maturity by calling the attention of the other in an atmosphere of sincerity. The Bible says, love covers multiple of sins. A true love will love to forgive and Bury the past without bitterness. Misunderstanding should not be allowed to snowball into crisis. Watch out and quickly nip every potential crisis in the bud. 

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